PART 2
If you want to be able to trust yourself, it is crucial to first understand what caused you to not trust yourself in the first place.
There are two common reasons why someone might not trust themselves.
- They are judging themselves based on past mistakes or failures – When people constantly break promises they made to themselves, they end up disappointing themselves and losing trust in themself. Let’s say one of your major goals is to eat healthier. Therefore, you commit to going grocery shopping every week and buying only the healthy foods which you will cook at home. You are excited and able to do this for 1-2 weeks, but eventually you start going back to your old habits. You have lost faith in yourself. The next time you try to eat healthy again, you will wonder if you can commit to it. Your mind is keeping track of your behaviors. Therefore, you end up forming negative or limiting beliefs about yourself, blocking you from any future potential.
- Their self-esteem is low – If you were overly criticized for your choices and behaviors while growing up or you were severely neglected as a child, that can lead to low self-esteem. If your parents are constantly questioning your decisions, doubting that you make the right ones, or they were never there emotionally or physically to support you; that will follow you into adulthood. Children internalize negative remarks and emotional hurt. Therefore, if adults were constantly doubting you or they neglected you, you might accept that criticism or lack of support as the proof that you are not enough even as adults.
Simply put, the biggest reason for the majority of our setbacks or fears in life is the assumption that we are not good enough. You might have been thought that you are not good enough, worthy enough, important enough, or smart enough by the adults in your life when you were little. Overly harsh criticism, verbal abuse, and neglect can all cause low-self esteem in children.
However, you might find yourself wondering if you can undo this low self esteem and learn to trust yourself?
Absolutely! You can rewire your brain through various techniques that help you practice self-confidence.
Techniques to Trust Yourself
Learning to trust yourself is like weight lifting and getting a stronger body. You practice in little steps and it will become easier and more natural as you get stronger.
- Set small goals – This will help you feel accomplished when you are able to achieve them. Starting with smaller goals will help you incorporate it into your daily routine easier.
- Be selective about who you surround yourself with – You are directly affected by the people around you. Avoid people who constantly make negative remarks towards you and can be overpowering in conversations.
- Concentrate on your strengths – Doing what you are good at helps you feel accomplished, gain confidence, and trust in yourself more. Write down your strengths and plan to use at least one of those strengths throughout your daily routine.
- Change the way you talk to yourself – While other people’s criticism can be destructive, it is far more harmful when you criticize yourself. Replace your automatic negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Repeating positive affirmations allows you to require your brain and accept your new beliefs. “I am enough” or “I am competent” are examples of some helpful positive affirmations.
- Explore the root of your problem – The reason for your lack of trust and self-confidence was adopted at some point by either an event or a thought someone else planted in your head. This will make it easier for you to change the limiting beliefs rooted in your subconscious.
Access to the subconscious brain is a very useful way to build self-confidence and self-trust. In hypnotherapy sessions, clients learn to trust themselves again by directing accessing their subconscious minds and requiring their limiting beliefs.
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